Be organized and proactive when seeking a lesbian relationship
Nancy, a lesbian writes, "I'm 18-year old college student. One of my personal challenges is getting the courage to approach other girls and find a girlfriend; so I procrastinate, and that actually leads to putting it off indefinitely. What can I do?"
Well, this is a problem that affects a lot of people. In fact, there are millions of men and women who do the same while seeking relationships. They literally miss out on their lives because they are shy.
Here are a few other things that you can do to first, deal with your shyness and its related implications, and two, to be more organized when it comes to dating:
How to overcome shyness?
1. It is human nature to feel a bit awkward finding a date, particularly when you are a lesbian. Even in the United States, the environment for gays and lesbians is very hostile.
2. The best way to handle your reluctance and hesitation is to treat even romantic situations as non-romantic. So imagine you were talking to the librarian or a clerk at a bank. How would you behave? You would not be shy at all. By doing that you will come across as confident, charming, and perfectly average girl. And if the object of your desire is charmed by you, she will be attracted to you even if you did not try to be 'romantic'.
3. If you are embarrassed to approach other girls, give them a chance to approach you. So you need to surround yourself with people that you like. So for example, let us say that you like girls with interest in basketball. Then you need to attend all events where basketball fans are likely to hang out. You don't have to do much beyond that. Be pleasant, approachable, and friendly if others approach you.
4. Try online dating. Dating websites are a great way for you to find good dates from the privacy of your room. Even if you are shy, you can do the search online. You can even indicate in your personal ad that you are shy so that others will be more considerate towards you. There are also online dating websites for just lesbians.
How to be better organized to find a relationship?
1. Treat dating like any other important project in life, whether it is to lose weight or to learn a new skill or to get higher grades in college
2. Use technology to your advantage. As I said above, online dating will automate a lot of your search effort. Apart from that, you must set goals for yourself. For instance, if you set a goal of writing two emails a week or meet one person a week or whatever else works for you, you will be accountable to yourself. Write your goal down and then review your performance every day.
Nancy, a lesbian writes, "I'm 18-year old college student. One of my personal challenges is getting the courage to approach other girls and find a girlfriend; so I procrastinate, and that actually leads to putting it off indefinitely. What can I do?" Well, this is a problem that affects a lot of people. In fact, there are millions of men and women who do the same while seeking relationships. They literally miss out on their lives because they are shy.
Here are a few other things that you can do to first, deal with your shyness and its related implications, and two, to be more organized when it comes to dating:
How to overcome shyness?
1. It is human nature to feel a bit awkward finding a date, particularly when you are a lesbian. Even in the United States, the environment for gays and lesbians is very hostile.
2. The best way to handle your reluctance and hesitation is to treat even romantic situations as non-romantic. So imagine you were talking to the librarian or a clerk at a bank. How would you behave? You would not be shy at all. By doing that you will come across as confident, charming, and perfectly average girl. And if the object of your desire is charmed by you, she will be attracted to you even if you did not try to be 'romantic'.
3. If you are embarrassed to approach other girls, give them a chance to approach you. So you need to surround yourself with people that you like. So for example, let us say that you like girls with interest in basketball. Then you need to attend all events where basketball fans are likely to hang out. You don't have to do much beyond that. Be pleasant, approachable, and friendly if others approach you.
4. Try online dating. Dating websites are a great way for you to find good dates from the privacy of your room. Even if you are shy, you can do the search online. You can even indicate in your personal ad that you are shy so that others will be more considerate towards you. There are also online dating websites for just lesbians.
How to be better organized to find a relationship?
1. Treat dating like any other important project in life, whether it is to lose weight or to learn a new skill or to get higher grades in college
2. Use technology to your advantage. As I said above, online dating will automate a lot of your search effort. Apart from that, you must set goals for yourself. For instance, if you set a goal of writing two emails a week or meet one person a week or whatever else works for you, you will be accountable to yourself. Write your goal down and then review your performance every day.
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